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Claudine Wolk's
WOW! WOMEN ON WRITING TOUR
OF
It Gets Easier!...And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers
Tour Begins January 16
Every new mom learns pretty quickly how difficult new motherhood is but also that nobody tells the truth about it. Author and narrator Claudine Wolk learned the same lesson after her son was born but decided to speak the truth about motherhood with humorous insight and reality-based suggestions. A few crucial tips can make motherhood a bit more controllable and a lot more enjoyable.
Publisher: AMACOM
ISBN-10: 978-0840711151
ISBN-13: 0840711151
Length: 4 hrs and 56 mins
Purchase a copy of the audiobook on Libro.fm, Audible or Audiobooks.com. You can also add the book to your reading list on GoodReads.com.
Uncensored Advice for the New Mom
Motherhood is a whole new world. Here is some uncensored advice to help navigate it and make it a bit easier.
Ask a Nurse in Private
If you are delivering your second child, ask a nurse in private to explain to your partner and your first born that “Mommy will not be able to do all the things Mommy usually does for a while.” “Mommy really needs your help.” “Mommy needs to rest.” “Mommy needs someone to make dinner for the family.” “Mommy needs help.”
It is difficult and uncomfortable to ask for help and Moms are expected to be able to do it all, Right? When your family hears that you need rest, from a medical professional, it may help them understand your needs at this time.
Get Your “Baby Visitor” Rules Out to Your Family in Advance
Naturally, everyone will want to come and see the baby. Most new moms would agree that there are two kinds of baby visitors. Type number one is the baby visitor who wants to see you and the baby and brings a gift. The type-two visitor is the visitor who has come for an outing and wants to entertained. Embrace number one, shun number two! Explain to family and friends ahead of time your thoughts on baby visitors before the baby is born. It will save you stress after the birth and set expectations.
If feelings of guilt creep in at denying visitors to your home in the early weeks, remember that you’ve just had a major procedure that required hospitalization. Speak up and do what is best for you! If you are up for visitors and would like to see people that is ok, too, just make sure the visits are on your terms.
Never Pass Up a Nap in Those Early Weeks (or any time, really!)
Never pass up a nap to clean in those early weeks. You are getting less sleep and it is broken sleep. Naps are your lifeline. Naps also might help your love life. A nap might rejuvenate you so that you might have the energy to renew your love life with your partner at the right time. Embrace your naps – even after the baby gets bigger!
Your Spouse May Want To Have Sex Before the 6 Weeks
Just an FYI that your spouse may want to resume a sex life with you before the usual 6 week wait time. You might want to have this conversation about sex resumption before you give birth so your partner is aware that there is a bit of a healing time after birth. Your partner misses you and misses that part of your lives together. Sex is how many partners feel close. Talk with your partner and your doctor about when it would be ok to get it on. The uncensored advice is that some women feel perfectly ready to resume before the 6 weeks and as long as there is no medical impediment, that is ok. Believe it or not, many women are excited (no pun intended) to resume their sex lives. I was! Do what is good for you.
Find a Slew of Babysitters
The best advice I give to new moms is to do your research and find a slew of babysitters that are not relatives. Save the relatives to babysit for the big asks: emergencies, overnights, special nights out. Use your own babysitters for date nights or for the times when you need to do something when your partner is not around to stay with your baby. When you have babysitters that you trust, you have freedom. You can run out for a few hours and grocery shop, go for a cup of coffee, volunteer - do things for yourself where you might feel guilty to ask a relative to babysit. As well, you might not want a relative to know everything that you are doing. Babysitters can provide that freedom. It might feel like an extravagance to pay for a sitter but remember, not every decision is a financial decision. You are a part of your family, too, and continuing to meet your own needs will make you a better Mom.
How to find these babysitters?
Keep your ears open. When you are with people you trust: your neighbors, your children’s teachers, your girlfriends, your pediatrician, your gynecologists - ask them if their children babysit. Ask other Moms in Mom’s groups who they use and if they have a trusted reputation. For example, I had a newspaper delivery boy who was from an adjoining neighborhood. His Mom used to drive him from house to house to deliver papers and I struck up a conversation with her after months of the deliveries. I asked if she had a daughter…she did…and she became one of my trusted babysitters for years. She taught my girls how to play a keyboard! That is the real dirty little secret – babysitters have more energy to play with your kids. It provides your children with an energetic, responsible playmate! You want select babysitters who have an accountability to the community or your family directly. Try them out for an hour or two to start. Once trust builds, you can decide how and when to employ them. It is well worth the money to have time away with your partner or on your own. Remember, your kids will hopefully be self-sufficient and lead their own lives. You need to be able to maintain a part of your life too!
Best of luck and remember, you are part of your family, too!
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Claudine Wolk is a writer, radio talk show host, podcast host, and book marketing consultant. Her first book, It Gets Easier and Other Lies We Tell New Mothers has affectionately become “the perfect baby shower gift.” Claudine is working on her second non-fiction book aimed at helping writers who want to publish and market a book in the same fun, practical way as her first book. Claudine lives with her husband, Joe, in Bucks County, PA and has three grown children and a baby grandson. More at www.ClaudineWolk.com
Other places you can find the author online:
https://ClaudineWolk.Substack.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/claudinewolk/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claudinewolk/
Twitter Link: https://twitter.com/help4newmoms
Stories and Strategies for Woman Podcast: https://storiesandstrategiesforwomen.buzzsprout.com
Blog Tour Calendar
January 16th @ The Muffin
Join us at WOW! as we celebrate the launch of Claudine Wolk's audiobook version of It Gets Easier!...And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://muffin.wow-womenonwriting.com
January 16th @ Just Katherine
Join Katherine as she reviews the audiobook version of It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://justkatherineblog.wordpress.com/
January 17th @ Liberate and Lather
Join Angela as she reviews the audiobook version of It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
January 19th @ Jill Sheets Blog
Join Jill as she interviews the author about her book It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://jillsheets.blogspot.com/
January 20th @ The Mommies Review
Join Glenda as she reviews It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers. You'll also have the chance to win a copy of the book too!
https://themommiesreviews.com/
January 20th @ Confessions of An Overworked Mom
Visit Ellen's blog and read Claudine's guest post about going from self-published to traditionally published. It can be done!
https://confessionsofanover-workedmom.com/
January 21st World of My Imagination
Nicole features Claudine Wolk on her weekly featured three things on a Saturday night. She also gives away a copy of the audiobook It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://worldofmyimagination.com
January 22nd @ Just Katherine
Join Katherine again as she shares a guest post by Claudine Wolk about the eight lies we tell new mothers.
https://justkatherineblog.wordpress.com/
January 25th @ Chapter Break
Join Julie's blog as she features a spotlight of the audiobook It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
January 26th @ A Storybook world
Deirdra shares a guest post by Claudine Wolk about the five mom mantras that will keep you sane.
https://www.astorybookworld.com/
January 27th @ What Is That Book About
Join Michelle as she reviews the audiobook It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://www.whatisthatbookabout.com
January 30th @ Michelle Cornish' blog
Join Michelle as she features a guest post by Claudine Wolk about message, hook, and audience: the starting point to successfully market your book.
https://www.michellecornish.com/blog
January 31st @ Bring on Lemons
Crystal rewards us with her review of It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://bringonlemons.blogspot.com/
February 1st @ World of My Imagination
Nicole features Michelle's guest review of It Gets Easier!...And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://worldofmyimagination.com
February 3rd @ Knotty Needle
Visit Judy's blog for her insights about It Gets Easier!...And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
http://knottyneedle.blogspot.com/
February 3rd @ Lady Unemployed
Visit Nicole's blog and read Claudine's guest post about how to get started on a voice acting career.
February 5th @ Strength 4 Spouses
Join Wendi as she reviews It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers. You also have the chance to win a copy of the audiobook!
February 5th @ Celticlady's Reviews
Join Kathleen's blog as she spotlights It Gets Easier!....And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://celticladysreviews.blogspot.com/
February 6th @ Celticlady's Reviews
Visit Kathleen's blog again as she features a guest post by Claudine Wolk featuring uncensored advice for new mothers.
https://celticladysreviews.blogspot.com/
February 7th @ Strength 4 Spouses
Visit Wendi's blog again as features Claudine's guest post about power shifts in your relationship with your partner and how to get it back.
February 10th @ Lisa Haselton's Reviews and Interviews
Read an interview with Claudine Wolk at Lisa Haselton's blog.
https://lisahaselton.com/blog/
February 11th @ Rockin Book Reviews
Join Lu Ann as she features a guest post by Claudine about reasonably cost-effective ways to promote your book. She'll also be giving away a copy of the audiobook as well!
https://rockinbookreviews.com/
February 13th @ Bookshine and Readbows
Join Steph's blog for her insightful reviews of It Gets Easier!...And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers.
https://bookshineandreadbows.wordpress.com/blog/
February 15th @ Word Magic
Fiona shares a guest post from Claudine about where to start with book marketing.
http://fionaingramauthor.blogspot.com/
February 15th @ Amy's Booket List
Join Amy for her review of It Gets Easier!...And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers. You'll also have the chance to win a copy of the book too!
https://www.instagram.com/amysbooketlist/
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